i think that be in a relationship both should put in as much effort, its not who starts the conversation first or you're suppose to be fighting for em. the both have to make each other feel working, if you have doubts then tell then since they are the closest person to you right? make the two both fight for each other, equally because you can't expect the other person to always put so much effort into you when you don't even try to make them feel that they're worth it.
i guess that's just how i see it, people blame their partner for not thinking of them or w/e bu really have they put in the effort? if you have then that means the person doesn't deserve you and its best to move on, that be stuck in a complicated relationship
